Useful Dating Tips
by Rick Lee
This is a section I decided to put up after receiving a lot of emails on dating tips. I am not an expert in relationships but I know about dating and meeting girls. So here I can take questions and publish my answers as well. Just make sure you email them to me at firstname.lastname@example.org
1. The first question that I get the most is where I find girls..
There are a lot of "types" of women that I date. In my personal life I am very picky about who I date (dating and having sex are two different things). I like girls who are pretty, whom I can have good a conversation with and an open mind. I find girls pretty much everywhere from a nightclub to a Yahoo club, it really doesn't matter. However, for guys out there who want to date more I would give the following advice::
a. Be more attentive at women in general in any situation. Make eye contact and make sure you follow up by introducing yourself. One opportunity lost is probably lost forever, so go for it. There is absolutely nothing to loose and a lot to gain.
b. Hang out where the girls are.. bars, nightclubs, beach, coffeeshops and make sure to approach them.
c. If the online thing is ok.. place a personal ad WITH a picture on all major sites, they are free. The girls that respond are obviously interested and looking so that can save a lot of work.
d. Communication is EVERYTHING in my opinion. Make sure you communicate well in person or by email, this is what tells guys apart. Guys who can be articulate and that are able to entertain a woman have very good mating chances.
e. Treat women well, always be a gentleman. Girls appreciate that and pay attention to those things.
f. Style and to a certain extent cleanliness are individual traits that many guys overlook. Make sure to improve on them as much as possible.
As I get more questions I will post them and answer them.
Rules of dating every man should be aware of
1) Be assertive
Be assertive and confident. Do not be too
shy or too agressive, it's delicate balance but one must be aware of this
when picking up or courting a woman.
2) Be on Time
Don't show up late for a date. If you can't
help being late, call and let her know. Don't keep a woman waiting around
for you to show up. She's going to get the impression that you're
inconsiderate, and that you don't think she's worth the effort to be on
3) Be Prepared
Make sure you have enough gas in your car,
and enough cash in your wallet to cover anything that might happen on your
date. It's very "tacky" to have to pull up to the pump or stop at a cash
machine while your date sits in the car. It's even worse if you don't have
the cash in your bank to withdraw. It's not a crime to take a woman out on
an inexpensive date. Just don't plan or leave yourself open for something
you can't afford.
4) Take Charge of the Date
Most women are flattered by a man who's
taken the time to plan out a date in advance. Ask for her approval of your
plans, of couse, but unless she suggests something, you should be the one to
set the agenda. It shows confidence, and that you've been thinkg about her.
5) Make Her Feel Special
Nothing turns off a woman quicker than a
man who eyeballs other women on a date. make her the center of your
attention the entire time you're with her. When your concentrating on her
exclusively, it makes her feel important and special.
6) Be a Classy Guy
Don't be cheap. If you go out for dinner,
leave a good tip (even if the service wasn't great). Show her you're
generous. However, avoid into "showing off" your wealth.. some women take
that as a sign of insecurity. A lot of guys tend to show off their car,
watch, material goods, etc. to make up for something they lack.
7) Be a Friend
Treat a woman as a "buddy", not a sex
object. Show her you enjoy her company, and you enjoy talking with her.
Don't act like the date is just a prelude to a "roll in the hay." A woman
needs to relax and feel comfortable around you before she starts getting
romantic. If she feels you just want her body, it's doubtful she'll give it
8) Don't Talk about your Sexual Past
A woman doesn't want to hear about your
previous sexual conquests, or that "wonderful girl" who just broke up with
you. She wants to think that she's the most teffific girl you've ever met.
If you're talking about old girlfriends, it tells her that she's not
impressive enough to make you forget all the others.
9) Don't Ask Her about Her Sexual Past
Don't pry into her personal life too
quickly unless she volunteers information. Why would you want to know about
her past lovers anyway. If you fall in love with her, that knowledge will
only pain you later on. Let her sexual history be her private affair. You're
better off not knowing anyway.
10) Don't Turn Into the Green-Eyed Monster
A little playful jealousy is flattering and
even healthy after you've dated a woman for a while, but being overly
jealous can drive a woman away fast, and it's deadly poison on the first or
second date. Show a little confidence. She wouldn't go out with you if she
wasn't interested in you. Extreme jealousy is caused by insecurity from
within, not the actions of someone else.
11) Don't Be Possessive
The only thing worse than being overly
jealous is being overly possessive. Want to get rid of a woman fast? Get
possessive. Try to take away her freedom and she'll revolt fast.
12) Talk Sexy Occasionally
Don't be afraid to sprinkle the
conversation with unoffensive sexual innuendos. You'll have to test the
waters on this one, however. All women will react differently. Women like to
talk about sex too, but you need to be careful not to come on too strong..
make SURE you are tactful about it not vulgar.
13) Don't be Overanxious
9 times out of 10 it's safe to assume that
if you let a woman know you're crazy about her before she decides how she
feels about you, you'll be making the decision for her, and you won't like
Like any other activity or endeavor, the more you know about dating, the better you'll be at doing it.